Sadness comes in many forms and today it arrived in a package that I can’t seem to open because I am missing the dexterity to put it back in its original form. I could never realize why a woman would want to be associated with me in the first place. Outside of kindness and a limited sensitivity I am not a captain of industry nor am I independently wealthy even though my grey cells are greater than the average Jack.
I have decisions to make and they’re not going to be easy. Do I sublimate my own needs to repair those of my significant other? She is a sweet vulnerable soul that makes my heart cry. Or do I keep on keeping on trying to raise my own sinking ship? I have to think of myself first and that might require the most painful of choices.
Stop the low self esteem and self esteem and self pity. You are an intelligent, attractive man. You are a true gentleman and wonderful friend. We are human & all have faults. When looking for a partner, It's all about deciding what faults we can live with and what we can't. We all make mistakes and apparently both of you made a mistake in getting married. It's a partnership - that takes two to make it work and two to break it apart. Both need to take responsibility and it seems that someone is pointing the finger rather than looking in the mirror. As for the crying, don't you think that after 12 years she knows how you react to crying? I think about Pavlov's dog... Maybe you need to assess your reaction to a woman crying??
ReplyDeleteA woman with any degree of self esteem doesn't react that way. If you want to buy into more misery be my guest but know you are doing it. MP
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the above comments and there might be an element of truth to them both but I have to be the John, Jack that made me and I am responsible for what my heart tells me what to do and classic formulaic responses don't always work for me even when they blow up in my face.
ReplyDeletePeople should not comment on subjects that they don't know about. Anonymous and Mary, Do you know this woman? Maybe, just maybe she really loves this man and trusted him, and maybe after 12 years is crushed by what has taken place and didn't expect it.
ReplyDeleteNo I think she always knew from the beginning. I thought I could change I couldn't and she thought she could change me. And she couldnt but that doesn't mean I stopped loving her before during and after.
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