My father has learned how to take the easier softer way. After agreeing before another sibling and I that a visiting nurse service was headed to his doorstep he made a phone call to his youngest and said that he ‘wouldn’t have it’. Not that he would call his only son and make such a bold reversal but instead did what he felt was his path of least resistance.
My sister convinces he was “on board” with the idea yesterday was crestfallen that he didn’t stand by his word. No mater I told her, the decision is out of his hands and how hard I press remains to be seen in time.
This subject is something I know about. You can not force him to do anything he doesn't want unless you have him declared incompetent. Unless of course you or one of your siblings intends to spend every moment the PCA (personal care aide) is with him. He has the option of not letting her in or becoming so difficult no one will stay with him and multiple other horrific actions he might take. Perhaps an informal approach might work. Have a neighbor, friend, member of his church stop in and spend some time with him on a daily basis.
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