My favorite spin instructor said that she loves a good fight. How do I feel about that? I would rather walk away from a fight than have one unless by not doing so would hurt more than my ego. There are times that we need to have a fight just because we need to establish boundaries. More often though it’s confrontation that we are faced with rather than a fight. Most people shy from them when to do so might bring about a positive change for both contestants.
Confrontations don’t always have to be acrimonious. In fact they are best handled the day after we feel compelled to have one. One day does wonders. It takes away the hyperbole that we are right and that they are wrong. Truth is that if we are in a disagreement with anyone can we really say that we are 100% right? Is the person we are having a problem with thinking the same thing? So if that is true isn’t it possible that we are complicit in the problem? If you stop and think about why they think they’re right we can get a better handle on what really is the basis of the discord?
Wanna fight? Let’s think first and then speak our minds later.
Fight what is it? Is it A difference of opinion or philosophy. That we are all entitled to. Bantering words is stimulating and thought provoking. Often it is an academic exchange of ideas. Aside from that a knock down blow out fight can be detrimental to body and soul. Frequently what seems to be a fight between two people is nothing more than internal turmoil. However, fighting is a human emotional outlet for frustration.. Sure it is a good idea to sleep on it. But the disagreement may not exist a day later.
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