Wanna Fight?

My favorite spin instructor said that she loves a good fight. How do I feel about that? I would rather walk away from a fight than have one unless by not doing so would hurt more than my ego. There are times that we need to have a fight just because we need to establish boundaries. More often though it’s confrontation that we are faced with rather than a fight.  Most people shy from them when to do so might bring about a positive change for both contestants. 

Confrontations don’t always have to be acrimonious. In fact they are best handled the day after we feel compelled to have one. One day does wonders. It takes away the hyperbole that we are right and that they are wrong. Truth is that if we are in a disagreement with anyone can we really say that we are 100% right? Is the person we are having a problem with thinking the same thing? So if that is true isn’t it possible that we are complicit in the problem? If you stop and think about why they think they’re right we can get a better handle on what really is the basis of the discord?  

Wanna fight? Let’s think first and then speak our minds later.  

My Easter Sunday

Spending it alone was a good thing because it reminded me of the other 62 Easter’s I had with loved ones. Never take family or friends for granted and you will always have reverence for the precious time you do spend with them. 

Platonic Love With The Female Gender

Who’d a thunk that a man like me could have more female “friends” now than I have ever had in my entire lifetime? One could argue that as a sexagenarian I might have no choice in the matter but I know that’s truly not the case. That’s just my own self-confidence talking but it has nothing to do why my relationship with women has changed so dramatically. I never try to commiserate with any woman as to my relationship status because I am truly emotionally unavailable. I can still flirt but it stops right there. Platonic love with women affords me so many pleasures outside the “peak sensation” that I would never make a trade off. Firstly I get to talk to virtually any one of them. Those that I might have felt were inaccessible greet me with an open door policy.  They feel comfortable in my company and I in theirs.  Whether they are single, in a committed relationship or married it matters not. I let them know quickly so there is no mistake I have no agenda and I am not trying to make my “move”. Instantly they feel less threatened an open up to me without fear that I will use anything we say to each other against them. 

It’s kind of cool that no one thinks I’m a dirty old man because I’m not. When women are under 50 I either classify them as younger siblings or me being their fathers younger brother. Women more tender in age in there 20s and 30s are all my surrogate daughters so to speak. I usually address these women as “young one” so even they have no question in their mind. Hell that’s the google generation they think The Breakfast Club is an old movie and for the most part when I speak with them I see my words going right over their head. Not because they’re not intelligent but simply because if something happened before they were born it didn’t happen. Not an indictment just an observation. But I love talking to young women because this old dog still can learn a trick or two from eyes as fresh as theirs. 

Women in their 40s and 50s present an even better learning experience because they teach me how they want their men to be and let’s face it I want to stay hip despite my advancing years and in this age group I have found some of the deeper relationships I have cultivated. I love their maturity and we get to counsel each other free of charge as to why men do what they do and why women do what they do. It’s a live version of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Platonic relationships with women are a Godsend in my opinion. And guess what? Because I have forged these new alliances I have befriended their significant others and made friendships with the boys in the locker room as well. Platonic love with women it’s just the best.  

People like Kristen Finello, Stacy Tucker, Ferne Segal, Nancy Kaplan, Heather Blank, Michelle Koss but to name a few. Thanks to these women of spin who brought me their friendship. 

Prescription

Although we have a tendency to go off our meds at times it’s never wise to increase our dosage without having to suffer the consequences.